4 Engaging with Students
Initiating a Conversation About Concerns
When you suspect someone is facing challenges, initiating a dialogue is crucial. Opt for a quiet, private setting to discuss your concerns, ensuring the environment is conducive to a meaningful conversation. The most effective approach is to be explicit about your reasons for concern, providing specific examples of behaviors you’ve observed. This method reduces the likelihood of a dismissive “I’m okay” response, encouraging a more open dialogue.
Tips for Engagement:
- Be Specific About Concerns: Detail the behaviors that prompted your concern (“I’ve noticed you’ve been missing classes, seem down, or are dozing off…”).
- Show Empathy: Express your worry in a compassionate manner (“I’m genuinely concerned about you”).
- Active Listening: Offer an ear without the pressure to solve their problems.
- Acknowledge Your Limits: Recognize when the situation demands more than you can provide and consider involving others.
If apprehensive about reaching out or unsure of the next steps, consult with your institution’s dean of students, counseling center, or a “student at risk” team for guidance and collaborative planning.
Addressing Reluctance
Students may resist discussing their issues for various reasons, including denial of a problem, fear of worsening the situation, or apprehension about potential consequences. If a student isn’t in immediate danger but refuses help:
- Maintain Open Communication: Keep the dialogue channels open.
- Seek Professional Advice: Consult with campus support services for guidance.
- Continued Engagement: Follow up with the student, showing ongoing concern.
In emergencies where help is refused, involve campus authorities or emergency services as needed.
Discussing Suicide
It’s important to remember that suicidal ideation is relatively common among college students, with more than 10% reporting serious self-harm thoughts annually. Despite this, suicide rates are notably lower among college students compared to their non-collegiate peers.
Recognizing Suicide Risk:
- Verbal Cues: Discussions about wanting to “end it all.”
- Behavioral Signs: Giving away belongings, withdrawing from social activities, or displaying intense emotions.
- Online Behavior: Posting farewells or goodbye messages on social media.
Immediate evaluation by a mental health professional is imperative for anyone expressing or exhibiting signs of self-harm. Never promise to keep suicidal thoughts a secret; involve professional services promptly.
If Suicide is Mentioned:
- Take it Seriously: Always treat suicide mentions with gravity.
- Gather Information: Calmly understand the extent of their thoughts to aid in getting help.
- Professional Referral: Connect them with mental health services immediately.
Ensure familiarity with your campus’s response plan to efficiently address these situations.